Hug People And Not Just Those With Big Boobs

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To an 18 30 year old male blogger teenager the benefits of hugging a person with big boobs is obvious. But to fully understand the phrase hug people and not just those with big boobs you would have to get your mind beyond the mammary glands embedded into the statement and into a room packed full with people. And then you have to answer the question: Who is the most important person in the room?

The most important person in the room is rarely the person with the biggest entourage or loudest voice or largest personality. But by default they become the most important, because everybody tends to gravitate towards them, everybody wants to hug and embrace them because of what they seemingly have on the surface. But sadly the most important person in the room is not that obvious and for you to spot them requires a special skill: the ability to talk to and respect everyone in the room. Because when it comes to the networking the most important person in the room is not just a person but rather a network (no pun intended) of persons. The stranger that appears uninterested or quiet might be the one connected to several key people in the room and the person serving cocktails might be the one with a direct contact to the event planners. The truth is that you would never know who is connected to who. But if you talk to and are respectful to as many people as you can in the room, you increase your chances of meeting the ONE.

Just a few months ago, I was watching the champions league finals between Chelsea and Bayern Munich at a hotel bar in Lekki. While at the bar I struck up a conversation with a certain gentleman. We talked about the game and how Chelsea had made it this far in the competition with a coach hired from within their system. Somehow we went from drinking Chelsea talking about Chelsea to talking about how/why businesses should learn to emulate the Chelsea strategy of hiring from within. And then he casually mentioned how he coordinates the hiring for his hotel staff…in my head I was like what hotel…turns out that he was the manager of the very same hotel we were watching the match at! Now this is not a small hotel, this is a major hotel on the Lagos Island. You would expect the manager of that hotel to be roaming around with bodyguards armed with guns. But he was just there alone and dressed very simply.

The truth is that you never know who you might be talking to in the room or what type of network they are connected to. But if you treat everyone in the room with respect and look beyond the boobs or beyond what we see on the surface we would be able to connect with a larger and more powerful network of people. Besides it is really just nice to hug people.

Make sure you hug someone today!

PS: Have you ever encountered a situation where you met someone at a networking event, but had no idea how important they were? If you have do share, would love to hear some of your hugging experiences.

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32 comments on “Hug People And Not Just Those With Big Boobs

  1. Reallaw on said:

    It takes me back to my boarding school days. We used to rush to hug SS3 babes during Send-off ceremony as their b**** were juicy! Naija too like eye service sha! Niiice post

  2. happyhausabunny on said:

    The fact is that most people look down on each other because of their occupation, education, appearance, religion, culture, gender, sexual orientation, color of one’s skin and a lot more. There’s discrimination, suppression and racism all over the world. I think a lot of misunderstanding rises up because of prejudice, not knowing other cultures, religions and maybe many people are afraid of that and so they act in a hostile manner.
    On the other hand, there are also many people and groups who work hard for tolerance, respect and equal rights and against hostility and prejudice.
    For guys, it’s a lot easier to interact and hug people, but for ladies, especially those that feel superior and over fly with themselves it’s pointless hugging such people. With that said, I’ll do my best to hug as many people as possible this week.

    Love the post btw.

  3. Well said bro, I think we can easily connect to people if we respect the fact that we are all equal and God values us all

  4. We need to stop looking and start seeing. Most times we’re carried away by the flash light ignoring the light itself.Jesus was never found amidst the noble men but rather with people of low economic staus.
    Nice work big bros!

  5. Nice article I must say. We tend to think we could choose who needs hug. We tend to think we could choose who to smile at.Everyone needs a big hug. However, one’s ability to get to study people within few minutes by listening to them, looking at their actions & inactions and listening to what people say about them will help one in striking the right chord. Even, the most elegant lady celebrity still want a hug and she will only take it from you if you do know your way at meeting her. The point is that you will never strike a good chord with someone who is not in the right mood unless of course you either know the genesis of his/her problems or you tread softly in sincerity of trying to make him/her good.

  6. Jessica on said:

    Read the post and the comments. A little confusing because I thought “hugging” in this context is just a metaphor. Abi?
    By hugging, you probably mean embracing (accepting) people no matter their color, appearance, culture, and what not. Yes, I’ve had a similar experience. Was at the beach, I was in a jolly good mood. Met someone, looked rather simple. Got talking randomly, later found out he was the owner of a well known restaurant (name withheld) on the island. Thank goodness I wad nice and welcoming. Not that I need something from him, but who knows what tomorrow might bring. Bottom line, be good to everyone.

  7. Reading this post is such a coincidence – I was just reading Chicken Soup for the Soul and came across a story about Lee Shapiro – ‘the hugging judge’. I randomly picked up my laptop to check a few things and randomly came on your blog and read this!!

    God is obviously telling me to go hug my mum who at this moment (1 :48 am) is probably awake praying for the well being of her family.

    And you reinforced this with this post.

    Thanks Ofili
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    • Ofili

      Wow Toyosi…that is quite a story. Its funny how one path can take us on several different journeys. Thanks for visiting my blog. Off to checkout yours out now.

  8. I was born to wave and hug. I am not able to say hello without waving like a crazy person if you are far away or hugging if you are close enough. Plus I grew up and married an Akwa Ibom man, In our culture, hugging is how we greet. albeit it side to side. Anyway, fast forward to my now and I realise that it can be misconstrued even in this era where every body is pecking everybody on the cheek. Lol!

    Anyway, I refuse to change who I am but I am a tad more careful than I used to be and now I try to let my inner person guide me on who is huggable and who is not. Somehow, your spirit will now.

    Coming here reminds me about how much I like your writing style. You start smiling even before you read cos you know there will be something to smile/laugh out loud about even as you get an ‘aha’ moment. I love that. I cannot wait to get your new book.
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    • Ofili

      DNW: your comment is on point o! I so cannot stand that side cheek air pecking. I don’t know where it came from but it needs its own Ghana-must-go type packaging out of Nigeria.

  9. @KoloKennethK on said:

    ((((BEAR HUGS))))

    thanks for reiterating the lesson of looking beyond the surface. Remember meeting someone from the Boston area sometime in 2010 on Linkedin. Happened, the year I was born, was when she became alum of a non-profit who’s country office I was running in Liberia. She was quite humble, and took me through my paces on how to use linkedin to build an online brand.

    The little me was connected to someone who had been top management for top 5 of top 500 blue chip in America, and she became a fulcrum for me to get connected to some high net worth people, including aiding my office winning a Global Fund sponsorship.

    Thanks for bringing up the lesson…

  10. Tolani on said:

    I love dis piece or post, mkes sense alot. It tlkz about little f everything &itz applicable in evry area f life, ‘i guess’. I wud wrk on huggn’ pple*smiles*

  11. I love love this piece.

    A couple of years ago, while working for an asset management company, I bumped into this poorly dressed couple – older lady and a much younger scruffy looking guy in the lobby of our offices. They didn’t look like my typical clients – And my very racist colleague shoved them on me. After we got introduced and I discovered they were also Nigerian, we chatted like old friends. Turns out they were mother and son from one of the biggest/oldest families in Lagos!

    They proceeded to spend sh*tloads with me that day 🙂

    This was 5years ago – we’re still good friends till date even though I’m no longer working in that industry.

  12. uduak-Obong on said:

    vewy vewy important to be nice. I have had countless experiences where a little niceness had been to my shocking and unbelievable benefit.

  13. Most def! On the to-and-fro parts of a trip to East Africa, I managed to meet (and get hit-on by) the Minister of Commerce for Zambia a couple of months ago. I also got to meet the Director of an international NGO/Thinktank based in Zimbabwe.

    I didn’t literally hug. My hubby for vex big time. Besides I don’t have big enough boobs to warrant the attention, but by nature I do like to connect with people and it makes life more exciting. Even if you meet a “regular” person, you can learn and gain so much just from treating people like people.

    The getting hit-on was great for my self-esteem (vain woman that I am), but meeting both of these powerfully connected men was great for me given the fact that they are key players in my line of work- International (African) Development.

  14. Oluwafisayomi on said:

    I read some of ur articles since I started followin u,but dumped some cos I was busy(shame on me).Just had a terrible break up nd was lukin to distract ma self,especially from digressin nd u’ve helped loads.Pls I can’t find d article on accidental entreprenuers(hope I got dat ryt)….plssssss can u re-send it?And dude pls ryt anoda article sharply b4 I kil myself.You rock man!

  15. Nemi on said:

    Have always been a hugger although not everyone happens to like it.I met these old woman last year @ MM airport and she was flying for the first time.she asked if she could sit and hold my hands onboard and we ended up squeezings hands all through the flight. Sha sha, her son gave me my current job immediately afta my service time in feb..And she is trying to match make me to her friends son.

  16. Havilah on said:

    You’re just a pure genius. We sure will want to learn from you on #Tweetminar – pls respond to your DM.

  17. I av an ish connecting with people I meet for the first time,am not dat friendly probably because am shy n usually dnt knw wat to say,Buh am trying to be,i went for a radio audition in school,and am seeing d need to be friendly.i was shy and nervous but my friend did well.i used friendly in place of hugging. I really like ur write up.

  18. I had a similar experience while watching a soccer match. Their is this clean, quiet and hidden hotel in my neighbourhood where I occasionally go to watch football. I often see a particular man there,we would normal greet but I didn’t take him serious part of the reason was that he wore shorts and talked a bit loud. I knew their was something about him but couldn’t place it. One day I took my neighbor to this hotel to see a game and just minutes after we had settled down this same man walks in. The speed with which my neighbor stood up to greet him almost made me to do likewise. He kept using the word “sir” while answering the man’s question. I sensed it was work related but couldn’t place the level of seniority.
    However,as a confirm interrogator I asked my neighbor who the man was. It turned out the man is a Doctorate degree holder in IT related field and the C.E.O of the biggest IT company in Abuja and this my neighbor works there. Though he is a Cameronian this man bad built a world class company in Nigeria. The man sha bought us drink but I was really dumb founded.

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