WARNING: Picture Might be Considered Obscene Because Subject is Not Thin

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One sweet and pretty girl introduced me to this site http://www.humansofnewyork.com/ by the way…if you are not following tHumans Of NewYork on Facebook or Instagram then start slapping yourself…lol. On the real it is an honest and down to earth site that features everday people with amazing stories. I have been following them for about 1 month now and have been tuoched by the power of the stories. However there was one particular story that I stumbled upon recently that really moved me. It moved me beacuse of the content. but more so because I know people in Nigeria who went or are going through the same thing but in reverse (being to thin). Anyway check out the story below and for christs sake stop slapping yourself:


Today I met an NYU student named Stella. I took a photo of her. Afterwards, she told me about a self-portrait she recently posted on Tumblr. So, instead of the photo I took, here is her self-portrait:



WARNING: Picture might be considered obscene because subject is not thin. And we all know that only skinny people can show their stomachs and celebrate themselves. Well I’m not going to stand for that. This is my body. Not yours. MINE. Meaning the choices I make about it, are none of your fucking business. Meaning my size, IS NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS.

If my big belly and fat arms and stretch marks and thick thighs offend you, then that’s okay. I’m not going to hide my body and my being to benefit your delicate sensitivities.

This picture is for the strange man at my nanny’s church who told me my belly was too big when I was five.

This picture is for my horseback riding trainer telling me I was too fat when I was nine.

This picture is for the girl from summer camp who told me I’d be really pretty if I just lost a few pounds

This picture is for all the fucking stupid advertising agents who are selling us cream to get rid of our stretch marks, a perfectly normal thing most people have (I got mine during puberty)

This picture is for the boy at the party who told me I looked like a beached whale.

This picture is for Emily from middle school, who bullied me incessantly, made mocking videos about me, sent me nasty emails, and called me “lard”. She made me feel like I didn’t deserve to exist. Just because I happened to be bigger than her. I was 12. And she continued to bully me via social media into high school.

MOST OF ALL, this picture is for me. For the girl who hated her body so much she took extreme measures to try to change it. Who cried for hours over the fact she would never be thin. Who was teased and tormented and hurt just for being who she was.

I’m so over that.


and FUCK YOU ALL who tried to degrade my being and sense of self with your hurtful comments and actions.




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6 comments on “WARNING: Picture Might be Considered Obscene Because Subject is Not Thin

  1. I think she’s fabulous. As a woman who’s been overweight most of her life, I can totally relate to her post however I was lucky to have a family (my mum especially) who instilled in me even at a young age that I’m fabulous at any size. People will always find a reason to pick on you, could be your weight, height, flat nose, inability to cook etc. Let it slide off your back, improve yourself if need be but never forget your ‘fabulousity’ shield.

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