Virginity Is Dangerous And So Is Culture

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Imagine you tell a little girl about the importance of virginity.

How important it is to ensure that she never loses her purity and that she keeps her hole untouched … but you let her also know that if she ever lets anyone touch it, that she automatically becomes dirty. That kind of rejected “dirty” that feels like a used pure water sachet that has been torn up, sucked dry and left discarded on the side of the road …

Culture Is Dangerous

Imagine then that you tell that same girl about the importance of Culture. That when she sees her elders, intelligent elders, smart elders, religious elders and even stupid elders that she is to bow down … prostrate to them as a sign of cultural respect. And that when elders talk she should listen and not talk back because somehow all of our elders are somehow wise …

Danger Danger Danger

Imagine now that that same girl happens to accidentally misplace her virginity bowing down or prostrating to an elder in  his bedroom? *cough cough*

Imagine that? What does she do? How will she feel?

She is stuck in a classic catch-22 situation … Go against culture and speak out against the elders or obey culture and keep quiet.

Sadly it is the latter … quiet obedient respectful abused Nigerians all in the name of Cultural Virginity!

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Words by Okechukwu Ofili of ofilispeaks.com
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14 comments on “Virginity Is Dangerous And So Is Culture

  1. Deep!!…Insightful!!…..and I love the sketch also..
    Please Okey, how can I get your books, “how laziness saved my life” and “how stupidity saved my life”…..?
    Thanks..

  2. Oooooh never mind…I just scrolled down this page and saw where to order the books from…my bad!!
    Thanks all d samé

  3. …Imagine if the importance of wisdom is stressed when both virginity and culture are discussed.

    Wisdom teaches that virginity is more than just a hole. Virginity is patience. Virginity is poise under pressure. Virginity is discipline. Virginity is discretion.

    Wisdom teaches the difference between culture and collective foolishness

    …because stupidity won’t always save your life.

      • …I am assuming that we are no longer discussing the same virgin that you previously mentioned in your article, who went into the elder’s “bedroom” and “accidently misplace(d) her virginity. ”

        …in that case, understanding the situations leading to the rape of the virgin you now speak of may possibly help you find your answer…

        ….or… maybe ask more questions

        …like:
        …When the rapist was a little a little boy, what was he taught about virginity and culture?
        …Who was teaching him?
        …Who held him accountable as a young man?
        …Who holds him accountable now as an elder?

        Imagine if little boys are included in the same lecture on virginity and culture, maybe less girls will have to suffer in silence….until ofilispeaks.

        (Ofili, please pardon the duplicate comment. I meant for the comment above, preceding this note, to be the response to your post about “the virgin that was raped…” Hopefully, I’ve attached it properly this time. If possible, please erase the one posted on August 28th as well as this note here in parenthesis. Thanks)

  4. Culture without thinking. A lot of “elders” hide behind culture, grey hairs and positions. Open ya mouth and show me that you actually use ya brain and THEN I will respect you. Until then, I will be a Christian and just respect the Christ in you.

  5. …I am assuming that we are no longer discussing the same virgin you mentioned in your article that went into the elder’s “bedroom” and “accidently misplace(d) her virginity.”

    …In this case, understanding the situations leading to the rape of the virgin you now speak of may possibly help you find your answer…

    ….or
    …maybe ask more questions

    …like:
    …When the rapist was a little a little boy, what was he taught about virginity and culture?
    …Who was teaching him?
    …Who held him accountable as a young man?
    …Who holds him accountable now as an elder?

    Imagine if the little boys are included in the lecture on virginity and culture, maybe less girls would have to suffer in silence…until ofilispeaks.

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