Hug People And Not Just Those With Big Boobs
To an 18
30 year old male blogger teenager the benefits of hugging a person with big boobs is obvious. But to fully understand the phrase hug people and not just those with big boobs you would have to get your mind beyond the mammary glands embedded into the statement and into a room packed full with people. And then you have to answer the question: Who is the most important person in the room?
The most important person in the room is rarely the person with the biggest entourage or loudest voice or largest personality. But by default they become the most important, because everybody tends to gravitate towards them, everybody wants to hug and embrace them because of what they seemingly have on the surface. But sadly the most important person in the room is not that obvious and for you to spot them requires a special skill: the ability to talk to and respect everyone in the room. Because when it comes to the networking the most important person in the room is not just a person but rather a network (no pun intended) of persons. The stranger that appears uninterested or quiet might be the one connected to several key people in the room and the person serving cocktails might be the one with a direct contact to the event planners. The truth is that you would never know who is connected to who. But if you talk to and are respectful to as many people as you can in the room, you increase your chances of meeting the ONE.
Just a few months ago, I was watching the champions league finals between Chelsea and Bayern Munich at a hotel bar in Lekki. While at the bar I struck up a conversation with a certain gentleman. We talked about the game and how Chelsea had made it this far in the competition with a coach hired from within their system. Somehow we went from
drinking Chelsea talking about Chelsea to talking about how/why businesses should learn to emulate the Chelsea strategy of hiring from within. And then he casually mentioned how he coordinates the hiring for his hotel staff…in my head I was like what hotel…turns out that he was the manager of the very same hotel we were watching the match at! Now this is not a small hotel, this is a major hotel on the Lagos Island. You would expect the manager of that hotel to be roaming around with bodyguards armed with guns. But he was just there alone and dressed very simply.
The truth is that you never know who you might be talking to in the room or what type of network they are connected to. But if you treat everyone in the room with respect and look beyond the boobs or beyond what we see on the surface we would be able to connect with a larger and more powerful network of people. Besides it is really just nice to hug people.
Make sure you hug someone today!
PS: Have you ever encountered a situation where you met someone at a networking event, but had no idea how important they were? If you have do share, would love to hear some of your hugging experiences.
Wishing You Extreme Success,