I Don’t Understand Gay People

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I don’t quite understand gay people …

It’s quite the same way that I don’t understand people that stick needles in their bodies to get tattoo’s. Or guys that wear skinny jeans and crush their nuts in the process … ouch!

It’s the same way that I don’t understand people that actually put pepperoni on their pizza and then eat it … yuck!

It’s the same way that I don’t understand people that bleach their skins or fix weave on their natural hair. Or people that think Coke is better than Pepsi … are you kidding me!

I don’t understand all those things. But I do understand this … that in life we are not going to understand everything. That there are some things that people will do that will confuse us, stump us and befuddle us … but just because we don’t understand them, it does not give us a right to discriminate against those things and those people especially when they are not harming anyone.

Besides we have much more important things to worry about. Things that are actually causing harm to people daily, from poverty, to unemployment, to corruption, to one of my personal issues child marriage. These things impact us at a level that we all can understand and relate to. But rather than focus on these items we tend to focus on things like the way a person dresses or the way they look or the way they have sex … as if it is a strong determinant of the goodness of their character.

But sadly it is not, after-all none of the convicted political criminals that embezzled millions of dollars from Nigeria had tattoo’s or were gay or wore skinny jeans. But yet they stole and we suffered for it and are still suffering from it. But we can mitigate future suffering if we focus on things that matter rather than judging people just because they sin differently from us!

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“Don’t judge me because I sin differently from you.” ― Dieter F. Uchtdorf

PS: If you know anyone that could use N5000, let me know who and why below. Please note that this does not mean that because you write something that you are obligated to get something. I wish I could help everyone but I can’t.

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  1. Bluchelli on said:

    I like that quote at d end. LOL, I put pepperoni on pizza (cos I likey), and I fix weaves on my natural hair (to look different). U dont have to approve of me (cos its for me). And I think child marriage is worse than gay. Gay is consensual btw both adults (though yucky) but the other involves coercing a minor. Well, we do hear of top gay politicians, buh of course they’ll never be arrested cos these laws are as usual, for the unlucky poor.

  2. Niyi Charles on said:

    You spoke, sorry wrote what is on my mind regarding this anti- gay stances from my friends.

  3. chudy on said:

    Kudos ofili for making an attempt to help someone. More grease to your elbow. Sadly you cannot help everyone or the people who need it the most

  4. Ofili you spoke my mind on these issues…like you are clairvoyant. I believe that if we don’t agree with another person”s perspective, opinion, sexual orientation, etc, at least we should be civil enough to respect it and not discriminate even though we don’t share the same. But on a serious note, one thing I sure would not tolerate is a gay person advancing at me or a child husband flaunting it in my face!

  5. Oluwafisayomi on said:

    Wanna say something abt the post but this seems more important and urgent.I know someone who needs infact a 100k for his school fee on or before wednesday the 14th may.He’s an amazing student with a great G.P.He’s already almost gone beserk that he’ll miss his exams,I know all u’re offering is 5000;but I guess little drops of water mks a mighty ocean.Sides u cud b d one opening doors of blessings for him,thanks.

  6. Temi on said:

    Nice Post!

    Me! I know of someone who might need that.

    Got disowned by his pastor folks for being an atheist. Had to move out. Forunately, he got a small internship job, but is struggling to even afford transport. We take him to work everyday. I think he’s gets paid 10k, and has to juggle rent, feeding, transport etc.

    The sad part is his parents won’t help, even though they are well-to do. Its small, bu he needs all the help he can get.

    Thanks.

  7. Hmmmn,” dont judge me because I sin differently from you” … “as long as it isn’t hurting anyone”…hmmmn.

    Let me say ofili, that I admire your style of writing.. a lot. I am a recent follower and applaud your attempt at showing some support to the gay community, with reference to the Nigerian environment by the look of some of your comment. A couple of which I beg to challenge.

    I agree with the first highlighted statement, however, has it occurred to you that the issue of gay rights etc only becomes blown out because some people (gay or not) put much effort in down playing the “sin” factor about it. Since we seem to agree that sin is sin, that it seems not to be “hurting anyone else” does not make it less “sinful”…you catch my drift? this of course takes us to the second highlighted sentence.
    Not hurting anyone in this case is veery relative. Our common and known wahalas here are as you correctly mentioned, and while those things affect our economy, right now the gay issue may seem insignificant, so why not examine economies who have evolved beyond ours and equally embraced the gay stance. Embraced it and evolved from practising same Sex, to having it blessed under the same spirit that speaks against it. Then to having it shoved down the throats both supporters and none supporters in the name of acceptance. Then also seeking right to raise children with 2 daddies or 2 mummies or a daddy and mummy who are same Sex. Even you are almost confused now right? Exactly, generations after you have confused adolescents with down played moral values. Etc etc. In the end these guys may not be faced with issues of corruption et al, they sure have equally attendant issues that may seem “just” moralistic but have consequential effects that are truly and indeed “hurting” them (esp the youths who happen to have been bred in the period of their “gay awakening”).
    Honestly I could go on but then i’d be starting a new blog (and I don’t need to cos I already have one lol).

    While your piece was interesting and fun to read as usual, I must say that your attempt to down play the “gay issue” left much to be desired.

    To compare something as sacred as Sex to Pepsi or pepperoni, you must surely agree is down playing the truth of the matter.

    Now I can drink my pure water! #sigh #wink.
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  8. Hmmmn,” dont judge me because I sin differently from you” … “as long as it isn’t hurting anyone”…hmmmn.

    Let me say ofili, that I admire your style of writing.. a lot. I am a recent follower and applaud your attempt at showing some support to the gay community, with reference to the Nigerian environment by the look of some of your comment. A couple of which I beg to challenge.

    I agree with the first highlighted statement, however, has it occurred to you that the issue of gay rights etc only becomes blown out because some people (gay or not) put much effort in down playing the “sin” factor about it. Since we seem to agree that sin is sin, that it seems not to be “hurting anyone else” does not make it less “sinful”…you catch my drift? this of course takes us to the second highlighted sentence.
    Not hurting anyone in this case is veery relative. Our common and known wahalas here are as you correctly mentioned, and while those things affect our economy, right now the gay issue may seem insignificant, so why not examine economies who have evolved beyond ours and equally embraced the gay stance. Embraced it and evolved from practising same Sex, to having it blessed under the same spirit that speaks against it. Then to having it shoved down the throats both supporters and none supporters in the name of acceptance. Then also seeking right to raise children with 2 daddies or 2 mummies or a daddy and mummy who are same Sex. Even you are almost confused now right? Exactly, generations after you have confused adolescents with down played moral values. Etc etc. In the end these guys may not be faced with issues of corruption et al, they sure have equally attendant issues that may seem “just” moralistic but have consequential effects that are truly and indeed “hurting” them (esp the youths who happen to have been bred in the period of their “gay awakening”).
    Honestly I could go on but then i’d be starting a new blog (and I don’t need to cos I already have one lol).

    While your piece was interesting and fun to read as usual, I must say that your attempt to down play the “gay issue” left much to be desired.

    To compare something as sacred as Sex to Pepsi or pepperoni, you must surely agree is down playing the truth of the matter.

    Now I can drink my pure water! #sigh #wink.
    P.S: Pepsi is simply in a class of its own and coke people can eat their hearts out! I’d have one with a medium sized pepperoni pizza with extra pepperoni puleeease!!! Lol
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    • Man Yansh na to shit ohhhh, stop all these big oyibo about right and stuff- what’s logical about that?

      Una nor dey vomit just to imagine man marry man.. haba! Which kind devil blind una…

      Pedophile and Gay wetin different — old man when like small pickin and man wen like men both for sexual and emotional purpose, nor be the same madness be that?

      Man ass is for shitting , one day too dog or goat ass will become attractive to humans too… damm they doing it alrady…

      Gay na madness oh, spiritual problem –

  9. I have a sinning neighbour who smokes pot, each time I smell that stuff, it gets me so infuriated that I have to cool down with a shot of Vodka. Does that make us the same? Just kidding…I love the post

  10. Lisa on said:

    But how can peoples minds be shifted from such irrelevant things and more on the things that truly matter and in turn create change. Don’t mean to sound pessimistic by saying its easier said than done. But it kinda is. I struggle with these thoughts aloot but many times the need to satisfy oneself first with the good things of life sorta overwhelms one. Anyway, like u said we can never really fully understand these things but I know one has to atleast make a conscious effort to channel our energies to more productive things as regards this post. An yeah! Definitely love pepperonni on my Pizza! What is wrong with you.lol

  11. fikayo on said:

    Lovely post, hehehe, i prefer coke to pepsi, sipping some right now. Lol!
    I know a lady who could use 5000. She is currently in hospital diagnosed wit ovarian cancer and needs money for her operation

  12. Okechukwu biko! Ajuru m aju! Pepperoni on pizza is heavenly & I’ll take Coke rather than Pepsi anytime. Other than those, I agree with you. We Nigerians place emphasis and focus on the wrongest, most unimportant things. Nobody is perfect, we point fingers at others, choosing to ignore or cover up our shortcomings. God help us.

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      Ofili on said:

      Pepperoni and Coke…the world is coming to an end. I am just here praying for you to see the Pepsi blue light, you can still be saved…lol

      I feel you though, well said.

  13. Fickle one on said:

    Well i want the 5000 because i’m trying to raise money for my iPhone fund or to do online shopping

  14. I must say i WHOLE HEARTEDLY agree with Tej.
    That said, i also agree that we may not understand gays & that it doesn’t mean we should pass judgement on them, even GOD listened to Adam before passing judgement on him. Doesn’t mean Adam kept on in that sin or did God encourage Adam to continue in his sin(or ask anyone to also judge him) but still allowed him free will because God designed it that each being is responsible for his actions & its attendant consequences._.

    Pepsi wah??

  15. Bibii on said:

    I like your sense of humour lol. There are a lot of things I have tried to understand, the more I tried the more confused I got. We are all different and unique in many ways, which is good it makes the world interesting.

  16. Coke & Pepsi are like Alder & Ofili (respectively)! I may have to quit radio-talking to compare but certainly not in this lifetime!!
    Beht ehm, nna, when Pepsi dem approach u to ambassadorise dem, plix erm, let me write d script or do some voicing okwaya!! Ehen! Ndo!

  17. Iganya on said:

    I agree with Tej on this one,Ofili. It has this ring to it, ”Some of these cases they call corruption are just people stealing.” C’mon! And like all sin,yes, the ripple effects beats our imagination.
    An interesting read as always though.

  18. ibukun on said:

    Great write up but I beg to disagree. That people are more passionate @ some sins does not make them wrong and does make it less of a sin.

    A sub is a sin.

  19. Alabi Abiola on said:

    Ofills, u should understand that coke tastes and ‘feels’ better than Pepsi – its more about the ‘ overall taste’. Pepsi tastes too sweet lol. I perfectly get ur message that its rash to judge other folks decision, cos everyone can’t think and feel like oneself!

  20. Sometimes I don’t understand too, especially why Dolili (fictitious name) would choose to whine on vehicles’ plate numbers and disregard their more pressing heavy-damn!-black exhaust that reminds one of 1st generation trains, or a thousand wraps of marijuana on fire.

    My Point: Well, quite much in sync with yours. Some trivial matters, however, that could morph into disasters need to be nipped in the bud right from the present.

    Beautiful piece, but look hia *straight face*. . . I still prefer Coke!

  21. Sometimes I don’t understand too, especially why Dolili (fictitious name) would choose to whine on vehicles’ plate numbers and disregard their more pressing heavy-damn!-black exhaust that reminds one of 1st generation trains, or a thousand wraps of marijuana on fire.
    My Point: Well, quite much in sync with yours. Some trivial matters, however, that could morph into disasters need to be nipped in the bud right from the present.
    Beautiful piece, but look hia *straight face*. . . I still prefer Coke!
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  22. Coke over pepsi anyday, I can’t stand the stuff and I can’t understand how anyone would buy a Pepsi when Coke exists, lol! During the furor generated by the antigay bill, I was so shocked by a good number of people I respected and felt that that they were rational, reasonable and logical people and the level of bigotry they spewed on gays and lesbians. worst off were Christians, who exhibit so much hstred when talking about them.
    That was when I understood how the Holocaust and indeed all genocides and ethnic purging could have happened (I never understood how a nation could watch millions of people die just because they were jews).

    • Man Yansh na to shit ohhhh, stop all these big oyibo about right and stuff-

      Man ass is for shitting , one day too dog or goat ass will become attractive to humans too… damm they doing it alrady…

      Gay na madness oh, spiritual problem –

  23. First of all, Coke over Pepsi anyday! I don’t like Pepsi at all. Great write-up. I’ll never understand gay people though and don’t believe anyone was born gay. Do check out my blog Lolosthoughts.com. Thanks!

  24. Nice article bro…most of your articles are vivid expressions of my thoughts… I suspect you’ve hacked into my mind… Lol… Keep up the good work Boss… Keep writing, blogging and teaching….remain blessed.

    As for the 5000,dont really know any one who needs one… But it do need a free copy of your book: how laziness saved my life (Android version)…

  25. Nice post! Yeah we can’t be alike or do the same things. That’s what makes us unique in our own different ways! But I gotta add that not calling a black shirt “black” does not stop it from being black. This is in reference to the GAY stuff. I would definitely agree with tej on that. We are all misguided at the end of the day in one way or the other but shoving down “acceptance” from the society is indirectly causing harm especially to these children these GAY people have been given rights to adopt/raise kids in some countries (God bless Nigeria). How would these children feel growing up to realize both my parents are same sex. It messes them up psychologically and they are forced to be that way and so the defunct process continues. Ah, these are just my thoughts. We must think of the future in all of our present actions!
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  26. Donald Kerabatsos (@Papakila) on said:

    I agree with your sentiment, though I wish the word “sin” had been in scare quotes. I think you meant it that way, but still, if taken literally it plays into the whole nonsense of homosexuality as shameful, corrupt, immoral, unnatural, etc. I hope one day Nigerians can see it as no more corrupt or unnatural than taking more than one wife or praying to a clay statue. The strength of African culture has always been its inclusivity and adaptability. Here too it can change, and become more inclusive.

  27. Dupe on said:

    That headline got me here, nice one there Ofili. I actually need that 5k, I have a job test in Lagos on Saturday, lolz.

  28. Luke on said:

    OFILI- yes nice post,however you didn’t strike a balance with the Gay thing. Like you I don’t understand how someone can be Gay – How two people of the same sex can emotionally and sexually be entwined. While many straight people battle to understand this way of life, the Gay people on the other hand especially those in the west, have an agenda – a covet agenda to dominate and forcefully get people to accept their life style since it’s totally evident that the two major religious faiths are 100% against Homosexuality. So gay’s only option is to either use policy, law and anything they can influence to protect them selfs and ensure the Gay life style perpetuate it self. But more interesting is the way the Gay have some influenced popular culture now that many straight people like you Ofili and the lager number of people on this page commenting on the issue from the stance of ” I am not Gay, and I don’t think Gay’s should be persecuted for their life style” . Well I totally differ. The narrative that anyone who challenges or disagree with the Gay life style automatically meaning that they hate and persecute Gay folks is a very big life. Its one of the ways the Gay folks twist the conscience of seemingly straight people so much so that you would rather not criticize their life style choices so you are not tagged Homo-Phobic a term I personally consider derogatory to straight folks who have every right to say- I chose not to like or support this way of life and owe it a duty to my self and my kids to tell them that ” people are free to be Gay if they want, but that in itself don’t make it right”

    I call this spade a damm spade, I won’t Window dress the Gay issue – They can have all the right they want – but a Gay lifestyle is not naturally right, it a culture that signify the thin line between humanity and beastiality – the culture driving the human race to each man be a God unto himself and do what ever feels God to you.

    Should the gay’s die for being gay’s like the Ugandan’s are doing? Absolutely not – but should this country preserve it’s way of life? Absolutely so? So the question here is how do a society like Uganda and the greater part of sub Saharan Africa find a mid way and accommodate “not deal” with its own Gay people . Shouldn’t this be what the USA should help address if they must be involved in Uganda’s Gay issue, rather than trying to arm twist the Government of Uganda.

    Last words. Personally I don’t think Africa has a Gay issue, Africa has Gay people no doubt but it’s way to insignificant a population to cause this much uproar, the only reason countries like Nigeria,Uganda etc is out rightly taking steps to discourage gay’s life style or to criminalise it – is because of both the Gay propaganda and the imperial western world always wanting to force something down the African throat – for the singular reason that they probably still consider them selves Master of African

  29. aimee on said:

    Excellent. Took the words right out of my mouth. You may not understand Gay people, but, respect them simply because they are human beings – universal declaration of human rights- RESPECT.

  30. Spiderwoman on said:

    I urgently need the 5k because I want to use it to buy vodka, no coke please, vodka and fanta. Tainks in adfans.

  31. Johnny on said:

    True, no one should kill or harm anyone by any means because of his/her inclinations(sexual or otherwise). But the argument that any authority or government should permit a “sin” because there are ‘bigger sins’ on hand is flawed. I am not fully in consonance with describing IT as a sin, but for now lets go with that. If the government refuses to look into ‘gay rights’ and like you said, try to focus on the real evil, is there a chance that the country will be saved and this real evil would be defeated. I dont think so. If a whooping majority of the country demand that homosexuality be stamped out, and government agrees, then I see that as a testament to our democracy; for once it is a government of/by/for the people. The injustice, as I see it is when an independent nation takes a stand on making, and somewhat, enforcing its national law and some western and international body punishes it for such excise of sovereign authority. What is it with America and Europe threatening Nigeria with sanctions as regards its right of “gay stance”. I think we also have the human right to be a non-gay society, if we so choose.

  32. Rapael on said:

    I understand the point you’re trying to make. And it truly is valid. But what don’t you understand about gay people? Just curious.

  33. Man Yansh na to shit ohhhh, stop all these big oyibo about right and stuff-

    Man ass is for shitting , one day too dog or goat ass will become attractive to humans too… damm they doing it alrady…

    Gay na madness oh, spiritual problem –

    • Rapael on said:

      Don’t think that’s funny. You should be accepting of others. That was the point of this article

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